The Best Blow Jay Everrrrr

I love my husband so much.

When we moved in together in 2004, we purposely bought an L shaped couch so that we could lay on it together and our heads would be close while watching movies or tv late night. He lays on his back in the L and I lay on my side with my head near his chest …and for at least two hours every night ~ he plays with my hair.

Can I tell you that as soon as his hand touches my head ~ I relax. As soon as I feel his fingers running through my hair, touching my scalp, back and forth, up and down, round and round …I am in an entirely different state of mind. In fact, just thinking about it, typing it ~ is relaxing me. …and it’s not just anyone’s hand that can arouse this reaction, there is just something about my husband’s touch.

And he does it … All. Night. Long. …or, until we fall asleep.
…and so what if I wake up with a knotted, matted dread lock on one side of my head because seriously

It feels so insanely good, it’s almost orgasmic.

…and in return, I give him The Best Blow Jay Everrrrr

The other day, as I was about to “make my husband happy”, I thought of the term Blow Jay that “Becca” used from the movie Superbad. Of course, I started laughing hysterically …which technically, is not an optimal time for laughter, but I think my husband is quite used to me by now and just, sort of, waits for me quietly …smiling. I mean, I did have his manhood in my hand so really, where was he gonna go?

So Superbad got me thinking {manhood still in hand} about the actual term blow job and I wondered if anyone ever in history had ever been confused by it?

Blow Job. I mean, you don’t actually blow air on it or around it, and you certainly do not blow air in it. So where, oh where did the blow come from?

Of course, this entire convo was taking place while my husband was waiting there, watching me literally demonstrate blowing air on it and laughing. …and then laughing some more

…I’m guessing it was worth the wait …but I still don’t have an answer to my question.

LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, recipes & home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life, her journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life with her adorable French Bulldog brothers, Trevor and Randy.


  • Franco

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    omfg maegan, i just got a mental picture of you ….. and I feel that urespectul to you, I’m sorry, it just came to mind, but hey you posted it, and so beware of dirty bloggers, what am I saying you prob. don’t give a funch haha right?
    anyways blow job? it’s just a slang, therefore it makes no sense.

  • missy

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    This post is one of the reasons why I love your blog. I don’t have an answer (especially because its not “blowing”- its actually the opposite that transpires) but I had a good laugh, and will probably pose this question to my friends.

  • Holly

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    hah I love how this started out sweet and romantic and went to BJs.

  • ~Trish~

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    LMAO I am crying right now laughing so hard!!! I puffy heart your blog 🙂

  • Lo

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    ROTFLAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ah the conversations we have in our heads! We would all be locked in the loony bin if they could all be heard 🙂

  • merc3069

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    THE absolute best laugh I’ve had in a long time. If hubby here is ever deserving of another one, I’ll ask him;-)

  • ~alison

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    ahahahahahahahahahahaha! I am seriously laughing my ass off right now as I am trying to eat some cereal. HYSTERICAL {AND that was sung!!}

  • Chris

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    That is hilarious! I can totally picture that… My husband always gives me massages, and no one has hands like his, not even my massage therapist. Funny that you got an L-shaped couch for that reason. My husband is always proposing we make a big bed in the living room out of the couches so we can snuggle together and watch tv 🙂

  • Maki

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    Actually, when I saw your post title “Blow Jay”, I honestly thought you wrote “Blow Job” LOL! I kid you not! I was like “oh Maegan….”

    I always get happy when I read your post about you and your hubby:D

  • Far

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    lol this story is hilarious but now you got me thinking… id like to know this answer to however googling this at work may get me in trouble so ill wait for someone else to do it 🙂

  • Katie

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    hahahah you are awesome! ok so I had to do a google search and this is what I got…

    The term “blow job” came from the term “basket job” which was popular slang in the 1940s.

    Basket job referred to homosexual oral sex, and when it was picked up by the heterosexual community they eliminated the term “basket” which was slang for a man’s genitals.

    Job simple meant doing something (sexual) to the man’s penis/genitals. So the term job was kept.

    “Blow” was replaced by the heterosexual community because it had already existed as slang for oral sex on a man, in part because many women would perform oral sex by wetting the penis with saliva and then literally blowing on it. As the saliva evaporated, the penis would cool slightly providing an enjoyable sensation to some men.

    Today the term “blow job” has evolved to mean the general act of fellatio among straight, gay, and bisexual individuals and does not necessarily involve the act of “blowing” on the moistened penis anymore.

    hmmmm yay for the internet! 🙂

  • Mrs.French

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    I am laughing so hard my stomach hurts…

  • Rachel

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    Love it….and too damn funny! good thing I wasn’t drinking when I read this post or I would have spit out my drink all over my screen…and at work…

    maybe because of a “blow pop” lolly pop…that you lick and suck…ehhh I got nothing!

  • Valerie

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    i’m peeing my pants. great, great post! BJs are funny in general…thank you for addressing that issue!

  • Franco

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    I can’t beleive Katie just posted that!!
    you learn something everyday.

  • Maegan

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    Yes, KATIE … you are amazing!!!!! Great find …BASKET JOB…ahahahahahhahah hilarious… i love it even more. And I think that’s how I will refer to it from now on!!!

    also …LO, sadly, I was saying it all out loud and not just in my head …so, it’s possible, that I …should be in a loony bin…lolololololoololadhahhaahahah

  • ÄsK AliCë

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    hahaha this is great – I’ve thought the very same thing – who the hell names these things!!??

    My ex used to play with my hair – it was fabulous

  • Megan

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    Oh man..I dont know if I was laughing harder over the post or the comments on the post! A friend of mine who has only been with her husband (now you definitely know this isn’t one of those “my friend but it’s really me” stories-haha) thought that you were supposed to blow on it.. So thats what she did on her wedding night. Sadly, it wasn’t for laughs. I wish I had known her back then I would have set her straight. 😉

  • So@24

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    Seems like such a rookie mistake that could happen to anyone.

    I bet there are some great stories of people getting confused by the terminology.

    I prefer using “beej”

  • Claire,

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    This is a sweet post, I feel the same way about my husbands touch. He touches my back and ass, I wish he’d touch my hair though, sometimes.

    Best technique: with his member placed tenderly in your mouth move your head around as if you were drawing a small figure eight in the air with your nose. Drawing circles with your nose is good too, and easier. The figure eight takes a little practice. I’m sure he’d hate you practicing.. heh heh heh
    I love the title of this post as my husbands name is J.
    Blow J, yes, I should.

  • Evil Mr. Peppers

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    wow! the last comment – wow!

  • Wep

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    ROFLMAO. Nice.

    This term, now widespread in English-speaking countries, spread from the USA in the 1960s. A puzzling misnomer to many, to blow in this context is probably a euphemism for ejaculate, a usage occasionally recorded in the 1950s. This may itself be influenced by the there she blows of whaling cliche. An alternative and equally plausible derivation of blow job is from the black jazz musicians hip talk expression blow meaning play (an instrument). This term probably caught on in Britain and Australia simply because there was no well-known alternative in existence.(1)

  • Maegan

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    hil-arious! love it wep!

  • hautepocket

    October 23, 2008 | Reply

    The thing is, sex is hilarious.

  • Mrs.D

    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    Honestly, it should be called a SUCK JOB.

  • Liv

    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    Teehee! That has to be the cutest/funniest story ever…

    Here’s me thinking it was because it looked like you were blowing up a ‘doll’ as it were…


    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    you and me are on the same page. I was just having this exact conversation with the hubbs last week. Too funny!


    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    stumbled upon your blog and i’m in awe!!!your blog is fab!!!

  • Leigh

    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    I love how you put it all out there.. You are fab!!!

  • colbymarshall

    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    Haha!!! Too funny…I’ve wondered the same thing before!

  • Mariafer

    October 24, 2008 | Reply

    When I came to live in this country 8 years ago I didn’t speak english very well so one day I went to the hair dresser and ask her how much was for a blow job…meaning blow dry, I knew one of the words were ‘blow’ so I figured since her ‘job’ was drying hair the right combination of words must be ‘blow job’…good for me the girl was cuban and didn’t speak any english!! so she said QUE QUIERE? and I said secame el pelo….she never knew.

  • Fifi Flowers

    October 26, 2008 | Reply

    LOL… HILARIOUS! OMG… this post is in stitches and the comments are just as good!

  • Paul Pincus

    October 26, 2008 | Reply

    katie covered this topic so thoroughly! I LOVE IT! really great post, maegan ; )

    ps you’re blog is becoming a movement.

  • Anonymous

    October 31, 2008 | Reply

    This was tacky.

  • besswess

    May 4, 2009 | Reply

    i think that the word blow in “blow job” is kinda like “blowing his wad”, “blowing his top”…etc. it has more to do with him exploding and blowing up than it has to do with what we do. 🙂 do you really think that they would make up a slang term that didn’t focus on them? 🙂 loved your post!

  • Jill

    July 19, 2009 | Reply

    Blow Jobs make the World go round, don’t they?!

  • JosMae

    October 4, 2009 | Reply

    I think it’s an intense expression of how great is your love for your partner. Interesting post!

    Filipino love it!

  • anon

    November 19, 2009 | Reply

    this was a great post. i also love how you tie in the sweet, cuddly part of your relationship with the fun parts like oral sex.

    and love the comments.

    love the comment about asking for a blow job at the hair salon =)

    and thanks for the info ladies and tips too =)

  • Amanda

    February 19, 2010 | Reply

    I was one of the CONFUSE-ED.
    my prude, virgin mind at one point in my life thought “BLOWing” was involved in some way, like, blowing-out-birthday-candles blowing…weird… :p

  • Robert Voltaire

    October 10, 2010 | Reply

    Maegan, you are awesome! That is the most hilarious post ever!!!

  • Anonymous

    June 8, 2012 | Reply

    Great Post! Sweet and Romantic! I can share this to all the filipino singles out there.

  • filipino singles

    June 8, 2012 | Reply

    Great Post! Sweet and Romantic! I can share this to all the filipino singles out there.

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