In April I started writing a novel… which sounds really crazy to say out loud (or more technically speaking, to type – here) because it IMMEDIATELY triggers my imposter syndrome.
A NOVEL? HA! WHO AM I TO THINK I CAN WRITE A NOVEL?
WHO AM I TO… fill in the blank.
The point is, I am an amateur fiction writer, because this is the first time I’m writing fiction.
Does that somehow make it less than real? NO. It’s quite literally real and it’s very much happening.
Each week (for the last eleven weeks) I have released a chapter on my Substack of said novel, which may or may not be “inspired by true events” and based slightly on a timeline of my actual life, in the very fun way that you, the reader, might not know which parts actually took place, and which parts are a figment of my imagination 😉 WHICH, in my opinion, makes for a far more interesting story (and one has to wonder if ALL fiction writers are writing some version of true events?) As Nora Ephron would say, “Everything is copy” which, as Google speculates serves as a reminder to writers to draw from their own lives and observations, finding inspiration in the everyday and transforming personal experiences into compelling stories for others.
Some of my favorite books had me questioning just how much of the fiction was a lived experience. In fact, all of my favorite books have had me asking this question 🤔 which has me wondering if I should even include that little tidbit at all? BUT because I’m an amateur, I’m not sure. However, as many of you might know some of the actual events that have taken place in my life over the past nearly 20 years I’ve been writing here, I thought it might need a disclaimer so that you wouldn’t think it was a biography, but alas, I wouldn’t know, since I am an amateur. What I do know, however, is that it’s fiction.
The imposter syndrome rushes in at least once a week while I’m writing and editing the next chapter just to beg the question: IF I’m an amateur, how can it be any good? And that, I suppose, is to be determined – but I think so far, it’s engaging and fun and some would say they are invested in it, so I have to assume by those metrics, that I’m doing something right, even as an amateur.
I mean, JK Rowling’s first book turned out okay, and many other first time writer’s works turned out to be their best work ever! AND the only way to go from an amateur (or beginner) to expert, is to actually put in the work, produce the results and well, write… you have to start somewhere, right? RIGHT 😊
Anyway, a few days ago I realized (accidentally) that I was ranked #26 on the “rising in fiction” section, and for the first time I felt like it was real!
However, by the next day (after missing a week of publishing due to life, lifing and the very first time I actually missed a week,) I had dropped down to #81 and then by the following day, I had fallen off the list entirely.
This is all to say that, as validating as it might have been momentarily, the loss of it felt far greater than having never had it at all. But sometimes, we need a little validation to boost our motivation to keep going. It’s hard to constantly push yourself as an artist, in any way, when the ROI is so low in the beginning.
And so, I have learned that in the future, I shall not base any merit on this (or any) list (even if it’s a best seller list), 😆 but it did make me feel seen and heard and validated in a way that nothing else has quite yet in this arena.
In the past few years, I have left behind what has felt like –entire lifetimes. I’ve walked away from my business, from multiple relationships, several houses, and even changed locations entirely in order to once and for all – leave the past where it belongs, behind me… and it has been a bumpy ride. In fact, it’s still quite tumultuous at times. Just when I expect the chaos to settle, something pops up and creates even more friction as if to remind me time and time again to go with the flow and enjoy the journey without focusing so much on the destination.
This is to say that I’m not quite off the ride yet, (are we ever?) but it has finally gotten a little bit smoother, and a lot more aligned with who I am and who I want to be – now and moving forward.
Looking back, I feel like I had a ten year derailment, a decade where I went completely off track, tried so many new things, went on countless new adventures, and realized that not only were they just ‘not for me’ but that by choosing things that specifically weren’t aligned with “me”, it resulted in what felt like massive pain and utter failure, and years spent digging myself out of it and still healing from it all.
It’s clear to me now, that as painful as it has been, it was a journey I was meant go on, if for no other purpose than to prove to myself who exactly I am and most definitely, who exactly I am not and how many standards I lowered and boundaries I dropped in order to fit into a place that I clearly was not meant for, a place I never belonged, a place where potential and hope had me risking my own sanity, and taught me what I will and more obviously, what I WON’T ever do again.
What’s funny, or maybe not so funny, is that I actually started writing a version of this novel 10 years ago – before the derailment.
It was before my divorce, and partially what possibly led to my divorce in some way, which I didn’t – I couldn’t see until now.
But once I was left all alone in my fear of aloneness and isolation way back in 2016, I dropped all parts of myself for a different kind of comfort and experience that I didn’t know would nearly kill me, mentally, spiritually, financially and mostly, emotionally, but that became the actual research I was seeking and the lived experienced I must have needed to enable me to begin writing this very novel, all over again – seeing it through completely different eyes and seeing it through – to the end.
Read Everything She Never Had // Chapter One
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