This post explores the concept of divine feminine energy as an evolving, lived experience rather than a fixed definition. It looks at how this energy relates to intuition, emotional awareness, creativity, and self-connection, especially in the context of healing and personal growth. The post shares the author’s ongoing exploration of the topic along with guiding books and reflections for readers who are also curious about embodying these qualities in their own lives.
Because it’s February and Valentine’s Day is next week and LOVE IS IN THE AIR and the topic of relationships is primary focus, I started thinking about what it means to be feminine and to fully embrace and live in divine feminine energy. Upon quick evaluation, I noted how much more authentically I live now vs when I was living with men in relationships.
In the last few years I have quite literally LEPT into my divine feminine energy with my whole heart and honestly feel more like myself than I have in decades!
I’ve been able to keep a fairly high and positive vibration in my daily life, I’m creative and creating much more frequently than in the past, I feel more playful and lighter overall, I’m dancing and singing multiple times a day (not to mention, talking to myself, which I really only catch myself doing when I’m happy 😆 ), the list goes on… but I’ll spare you. I guess I just feel like I’m living in my divine feminine energy in a way I haven’t been able to in a very long time and I wasn’t really even aware of it until I started doing a little bit more research… then was able to clearly compare how I was vs how I am now and how RIGHT it feels to my heart and soul.
Embracing the divine feminine means examining ourselves honestly and holistically to find the balance that works for us. To find the sharp bits and soften them, to find the most fragile parts of our hearts and stabilize and support them.
The post What Is The Divine Feminine? written by Emily Torres on The Good Trade, sums it up really well. I’ve highlighted some key points below…
The divine feminine is the spiritual concept that there exists a feminine counterpart to the patriarchal and masculine worship structures that have long dominated organized religions. The divine feminine extends well beyond one belief system, and instead can be used as a spiritual lens to balance our perspective.
The feminine and the masculine are not singular and siloed energies—instead, they exist in balance. For example in ancient Chinese philosophy, Yin and Yang are a balance between receptive and productive, introspective and extrospective, feminine and masculine.
Ultimately, the consensus I’ve found is that the divine feminine is closely connected to “receiving” or “hidden” while the masculine is “producing” or “visible.” And we’ve idealized the “producing” side of things as a society (particularly in the “hustle” culture of the US), that the “receiving” feels like a bad thing.
To break it down even further, the feminine cannot exist without the masculine and the balance between the two is where we find our true nature. Below is a breakdown of what (general) traits fall under the masculine and the feminine energies.
When I am truly ME, I encompass ALL of the feminine traits… yet when I’m in work and business mode, I encompass all or many of the masculine traits, which I find interesting. However, I’m happiest in femme mode and only go into masculine mode when I have to and then leave it behind as soon as I can. In relationships though, if I’m with male energy that doesn’t fill the masculine cup, I pick up the slack and then become more of the masculine energy on a full-time basis, and do not like it at all.
How Can You Activate the Driving Feminine Energy Within?
1. Move your body… Dancing, stretching, yoga, walking, anything to be in your body.
2. Spend more time in nature, observing the beauty of mother nature, the truest Divine Feminine.
3. Get comfortable RECEIVING, get into a receptive energy.
4. Soften, flow… focus on love and softness within.
5. Do what makes you feel good.
6. Dress in a way that makes you feel strong and confident
7. Set clear boundaries and stick to them.
8. Be playful.
9. Be open to life and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
10. Stay in high vibrational energies vs lower vibrational energies (see list below)
What are the signs of a Divine Feminine awakening?
1. You’re intuition is speaking to you… and you are listening and in alignment in your words and actions.
2. Your heart chakra is open and you act with compassion and love.
3. You’re comfortable in your sensuality.
4. You can forgive easily.
5. You want to spend time with positive, gentle people who make you feel good about yourself.
Below are a few videos I watched on connecting to your divine feminine energy, and thought you might want to too. I’m not sure I agree with ALL of the ideas, but I do like the concepts, overall.
Divine Feminine Energy- What is it and How to Activate it to Magnetize, Reclaim your Feminine Power!
Set healthy boundaries, and stick to them!
- NOTE: As a people-pleaser, sticking to healthy boundaries is VERY tough. The simplest way I’ve found that works is checking in with my body. When I suddenly feel like my sleep is off, my anxiety is up, and any other bodily symptoms occur, I take a moment to review my life circumstances and what may have caused the upheaval. What’s happening is, my body is firing up at red flags I’ve healed in the past, which means something or someone is infringing on those boundaries without my realizing it – YET! My body reminds me to check in and see where I’ve agreed to something that doesn’t align with my core values, even if it slipped through the cracks of emotional manipulation. It’s not up to the other person to stop acting the way they act (or to teach them how to treat you), it’s about noticing you’re in an environment with an UNSAFE PERSON and then removing yourself from that situation. I’ve learned that no amount of explaining will make that person stop pushing your boundaries, it’s up to you to enforce them, and if a person continually pushes up against them, you flag them as unsafe and move along. No explanation needed!
Feminine Energy: How to Nourish Your Soul & Improve Your Intuition – Inner Work Library [21/500]
Be softer at the edges, a beam of light of radiance of the heart, which warms and inspires and becomes life-giving to the world around her
video: 10 HABITS TO INCREASE YOUR MAGNETIC FEMININE ENERGY // learn how to tap into your divine feminine
Be more receptive… get comfortable receiving.
This is still an evolving exploration for me. I don’t think this is something you “arrive at” and fully define—at least not in my experience. I’m actively learning, unlearning, and integrating in real time.
I’m currently reading and listening to a few books below as guideposts. If you’re exploring this too, they may be helpful starting points.
I’d love to hear how this lands for you—especially if you’re exploring this idea in your own way.
Happy Divine Feminine Energy, Lovecats! Check out similar posts below. . .
Related reading: Step Into Your Feminine Energy, How to Love Yourself on Valentine’s Day, Photo from: Feeling Frisky on Valentine’s Day.
Originally published: February 9, 2023 // Last updated: May 27, 2026
