Completely Gratuitous Outfit Post






What I’m Wearing
* J Brand indigo skinny jeans cuffed …last seen here
* Forever 21 brown cowl neck jersey long sleeve
* Vintage Ralph Lauren tweed blazer …seen here and here w/ jeans
* Red Monkey Designs brown leather belt with brass buckle
* Vintage brass chains …here + more …seen here with outfit
* Gold-tone hoop earrings
* Via Spiga brown lace-up wedge booties …last seen here
* Tom Ford sunglasses
* Burberry wallet …seen here …and um, I want this bag please 😉

Some of these shots came out so dark and I just love them.

I’m trying to look outside myself and find beauty in everything …taking the time to smell the roses, if you will. Sometimes it’s the only way to get out of my head and stop the domino effect of irrational thought/fear/worry cycle I sometimes get lost in. I get wrapped up in what’s wrong and focus on that instead of trying to find solutions for what is bothering me. In other words: I think far too much.

My husband reminded me last night that I sort of get wrapped up in fantasy {something I tend to accuse him of when he gets lost in video game heaven} …in the sense that I watch unrealistic shows, am immersed in fashion and the culture that goes with it, work in an art gallery surrounded by art I can’t afford and forget to see the reality in life. It’s easy to think you have nothing when viewing “the fabulous life of” type of shows …which everything seems to be. Even in sitcoms where the family is supposed to be “middle class” or “just getting by” the house they live in is a house in my neighborhood or the like {since most shows are filmed in LA -and living in LA doesn’t help either}. But a house in my neighborhood is 700K and up …and that is nowhere near middle class affordability. And where most times I am not really affected by it or can blow it off, when I get in a certain place in my head, everything is a hit. And then it just spirals.

And you know what it all leads back to? A baby. A super tiny {alien-like} human that I cannot seem to create …and it’s driving me insane. And I need to figure out how to deal with it asap or I’m going to have to go and get something prescribed for it.

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LA native & lifestyle blogger Maegan Tintari writes daily at sharing beauty & style secrets, including fashion DIYs, how-to nail art manicures, hair tutorials, recipes & home decorating ideas, as well as a look into her personal life, her journey & battle with infertility & recent relocation to the mountains by a lake in search of a better life with her adorable French Bulldog brothers, Trevor and Randy.


  • Teresa

    November 12, 2009 |

    Those Via Spiga booties are super cute!! I need some good brown shoes for the winter. Just realized almost all my shoes are black!

  • Megan

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love the brown – it looks great. Also love the new locations for the pictures!

    I’m the same way – I get wrapped up in what I don’t have and forget what I DO have. I’m right there with you!

  • Jenni

    November 12, 2009 |

    I never leave comments on here (guess I’m shy) but I must say that I love your outfit post today. And that first photo is adorable. It might be my favorite one I’ve seen in a long while.

  • Jacqueline

    November 12, 2009 |

    That blazer is beautiful. I love the mixing of all the browns. It helps me to step away from the computer and the TV and go outside with the animals. This is what I do when I get too wrapped up in the superficial. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

  • Jessica

    November 12, 2009 |

    what a wonderful autumn outfit!

    i la-la-love your blog!

  • Jami Rodriguez Jewelry

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love this look…great blazer!

  • Leia

    November 12, 2009 |

    I think you look more beautiful than ever in these pictures, if that’s possible. This silhouette is perfect on you!

  • Anonymous

    November 12, 2009 |

    I think it’s wonderful that you share this side of you. I think so many people think if you’re beautiful (like you are) that your life is perfect and that you can’t possibly have anything to worry about. Good luck with getting to the super tiny human part – I know the waiting and hoping can be excruciating at times.

  • Amber

    November 12, 2009 |

    LOVE this look!

  • Lauren

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love the outfit…..but loved the end of your post more =]

    I feel the same way at times–getting caught up in the fantasy world of unrealistic television shows, fashion, beauty, etc–which all those things do bring a joy; yet a temporary joy. It’s almost a cover to not recognize inside ourselves what we really feel missing in our lives.

    Thank you for making yourself vulnerable to all of us–in that you allow others to recognize it in themselves.

    Be assured of my prayers for your conceiving struggles/heartache/pain. I know some people don’t like hearing that–but I don’t care..its the reality and its what is in my heart.

  • Morgan

    November 12, 2009 |

    Loving this look!
    And I just know you’re going to have that baby. Stay positive!

  • Allison

    November 12, 2009 |

    I want this exact outfit! You look awesome!

  • Lorena

    November 12, 2009 |

    What a great set of pictures…
    It’s so true what you speak of, we tend to make comparisons with things that are not even real.
    But it is a blessing to have the capacity to tell these two apart, some people can’t.
    The baby will arrive, it’s just a matter of time 🙂

  • K

    November 12, 2009 |

    I love those booties! They are amazing. You look stunning, as always!

  • Jaime

    November 12, 2009 |

    Fab look- love the booties and that first pic! 🙂

  • Brown Girl

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love the outfit..duh.

    Have you ever thought about trying to talk to a counselor about your internal struggles with having/not having an alien like human? I can’t even begin to imagine how you must feel…just trying to think of an option so you can get out of your head. I appreciate how you real, open, and honest you always are with us. xoxo

  • Posh

    November 12, 2009 |

    Wow, you are SO DAMN pretty!! Give me your hair please, it’s just perfect..

    Nice outfit too, great blazer! <3

  • Saltwater Dreams

    November 12, 2009 |

    Gorgeous outfit! I love, love, love the RL blazer–so fresh and chic with the cuffed jeans and wedge booties–INSANE!

    Gorgeous as usual.

  • Disney

    November 12, 2009 |

    Wow. I LOVE this one. It’s giving me good ideas! I just love seeing what you wear! :o)

  • ~ronda

    November 12, 2009 |

    i love this fall look. its still too warm here to wear anything like that. love thats its ok to cuff the jeans!

    on a side note. i am truly sorry to hear about your troubles having a little one. I have a teflon uterus (nothing sticks for long) and can relate…

  • Alba

    November 12, 2009 |

    Great look!! and first picture is so cute.

  • bananas.

    November 12, 2009 |

    go for the Rx drugs…whoa sorry spoke too soon.

    i’m sorry love, must be super frustrating. i don’t get why this seems to be happening to the ones who most want a baby. it’s not fair 🙁


    November 12, 2009 |

    We all have addictions.
    Sometimes it’s stuff, sometimes it’s stuff we stuff ourselves with, and sometimes it’s the stuff that swirls in our heads, which is so much harder to quit.

    Go to Adam @ Acutonix on Abbot Kinney.

    Be well.

  • ShellSpann

    November 12, 2009 |

    I realized recently that I don’t stop to “smell the roses” near enough. I’m making it a point to start doing that ASAP! 🙂

  • Ela

    November 12, 2009 |

    It’s tough, Maegan. Hang in there. Just like you…it all boils down to that little bundle of joy that has yet to grace my belly, that I long for each and everyday. Our time will come. I just know it. So, enjoy this time with just you and hubs for now – it won’t be much longer I’m sure 🙂

    Love the wedge booties and your tweed blazer, you look fab as always.

  • Couture Carrie

    November 12, 2009 |

    Gorgeous, darling M!
    Love the cuffed jean!

    And congrats on your 2200+ followers… you are my inspiration!!


  • Random Musings Of My Life

    November 12, 2009 |

    Well I hate to burst your bubble but I have known since I was 15 (17 years ago) that I would never have kids and just when you “think” you may be over it… It all comes back… But each day is easier, and if you stay positive and look at the positive aspects of what you have going for you.. Count your blessings and enjoy the ride…

  • Erin

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love the blazer 🙂
    I know what you mean sista! I would hardly label myself as just getting by (nor am I “rich”) but lord do I feel that way alot. It seems sometimes (when I can step into reality) that the world wants you to feel thay so you play thier little game of “keeping up with the jone’s”…it crazy. I get far too wrapped up in what others have that I don’t that it makes life a lille misrable at times. Good thing I have a husband who plucks me out of the clouds!

  • besswess

    November 12, 2009 |

    I just read a found a blog of an adorable mother of two adorable children. It wasn’t a typical mom blog that makes me puke, but she was amazing. She loves fashion and home decor, but I love that next to a vera wang bracelet she had a picture of her daughter with face paint holding a gourd. Yeah. That is a normal life. And all of a sudden, I was wishing that I was this woman. The woman that can stay home with her kids and make rice crispie treats and greet her hubby at the door with her wild children making a mess behind her.
    I’m single. 27 and not even a prospect of marriage. Do I want a family? Yes. Why in the hell is God tormenting me like this?
    So I saw your post and it made me think that I just need to take a break and relax.
    Thank you!

  • Closet Cravings

    November 12, 2009 |

    I love your honesty; it is so beautiful. I find your honest words quite addictive.

    You’re not alone. I think too much too, and I get wrapped up in the fantasy life projected by tv, movies, and magazines. It’s hard not to. Everything is so beautiful and perfect in the fantasy world. Like you, I’m on a quest to find the beauty in what I have. When I acknowledge what I do have, I feel quite grateful. I hope a baby finds its way into your arms.

    btw- Love your tweed blazer. =)

  • Elizabeth Marie

    November 12, 2009 |

    I love you in brown. I love you period, and we all know I think too much too…boo.

    Dude, living in LA does not help us…ughhh so know what you mean.

    Hang in there, I don’t get why this happens to those who want it the most either. Blows my mind.

  • Violet

    November 12, 2009 |

    i love the first picture and how you postioned to the right… you look so pretty i like the shoes

    i think we all must stop from time to time to smell a rose

    I know you’ll have a baby bump to post about everyday soon and i cant wait

  • Summer B.

    November 12, 2009 |

    Dear Maegan:
    I looked at the pictures first and I thought to myself, “wow, she looks angelic and peaceful”. She is glowing. So, then I read what you wrote. I know what you are feeling. God, Do I ever know. I am here thinking good thoughts and making wishes and sending them your way! You are lovely in every single way. You have a rich life. Not rich before of money or fashion, because you are you. You are open and honest. You hurt and you laugh. You will be a great mother.

    I am here if you need to discuss anything.


  • .

    November 12, 2009 |

    Hi, can I please have your hair?

    Your look today is flawless, love, love!

  • Ditte

    November 12, 2009 |

    love, love, love those wedges!

  • Deborah

    November 12, 2009 |


  • Katie

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love the first picture. Love.

  • Christina

    November 12, 2009 |

    I’m sorry… I wish I had some magical words to speak that would make that kind of pain and frustration go away. But until I discover them, I just want to say my heart goes out to you.

  • Glamour Bbey.

    November 12, 2009 |

    Girl! YOur pictures, style, everything is lovely!

  • Jac

    November 12, 2009 |

    Gorgeous colors on you. Love the look.
    I get caught up in the same vicious cycle of thought and it is so depressing. Good thing we are surrounded by loving people who help us realize what really matters in life.
    And do you really want to be one of those girls on TV/Mags/Internet who constantly have to live with the criticism, drug addictions, public love lives, and insecurities/need for approval that lead them to seek celebrity? I don’t think so. You are blessed in so many ways and if you just keep doing what you’re doing I know your heart’s desire will eventually be realized.

  • janettaylor

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love Ur Via Spiga, I have got a similar piece from this brand. Haha!

    Please don’t forget my giveaway! 😉


  • alefoggy

    November 12, 2009 |

    i just love it!

    it´s soo.. professional but totally in fashion.

    Just love it

  • Alicia

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love this outfit! You look great!

  • ♥Aubrey

    November 12, 2009 |

    A rose is a rose…with beauty shining through!!!
    To think of the negatives is too easy and often the cause of us getting ourselves down. We must “stop and smell the roses” as you put it to put our lives into perspective. To understand that it’s the little things we take for granted that must be acknowledged.

    This look is fantastic. I’m sure your hubs approves 🙂

  • Miss Caitlin S.

    November 12, 2009 |

    Ooooo, sexy menswear is so fun. One of my favorite looks to rock at work. Uber sexy girl!

  • The Fabulous Gloria Blackwell

    November 12, 2009 |

    As the song goes, “the waiting is the hardest part.” I feel your pain in wanting something to happen in your life that it seems like there’s no control over! It sucks! I think the key is to stop, take a deep breath, and really believe that all good things will come to us in due time. We can’t rush them and trying to speed up the process sometimes just back fires. It’s such a frustrating lesson!

  • jennine

    November 12, 2009 |

    oh man…hang in there… i always figure something has to give. but i know what you mean about delightful distractions, i’ve been doing it a lot lately..

  • Bubu

    November 12, 2009 |

    Hello, I‘m Bubu from Spain, I really like your blog and your style, very very nice.

    You can visit my blog. KISSES FROM SPAIN.

  • Heidi Renée

    November 12, 2009 |

    Your hair looks so nice like that, and the picture with the rose is too cute!

  • Violet

    November 12, 2009 |

    I nominated you for a blog award Maegan check my blog

    Vi from Cali

  • Yamila

    November 12, 2009 |

    Love, love, love this look doll!!

    Amazing. Have a good day 🙂

  • Grace

    November 12, 2009 |

    That first photo of you is adorable!

    Love Grace.

  • Hanako66

    November 13, 2009 |

    I love this outfit, and these photos, and your shoes.

    That said, I know that you know this, but I hear you. And I know that I have told you before, but I’m here for you. It sucks big time and I wish that there was something that I could say to make it better for you, but I know that I can’t and I’m sorry.

  • Robin

    November 13, 2009 |

    Love your honesty. I have written on your blog before. I had a hysterectomy at a young age. Biggest regret of my life was not adopting. Think about it…it takes quite a while and if you get pregnant in the meantime…BONUS:)

  • Felicia

    November 13, 2009 |

    I know what you mean about living in a fantasy world. I accuse people of it all the time, but something happened today that questioned if I’m one of them too. Time to make an appointment with the good old therapist! HAHAHA!!

  • LifestyleBohemia

    November 13, 2009 |

    SO cute for all! I feel like I never see you in pants 😉

  • vintagewithatwist

    November 13, 2009 |

    great outfit! Im in love with that blazer!

  • TheBeautyFile

    November 13, 2009 |

    I have to say, that first photo belongs in a gallery. It’s so professional, artistic and just inspired. I saved it to use on my blog because it’s really incredible!

  • graceful nichole

    November 13, 2009 |

    I read your blog every day, and although I don’t always say something to your posts, I always think wonderful things about you, envy your wardrobe and cringe when I hear of your heart pains.
    Your story is a lot like my boss’s, although rather than wanting a baby, she wants a husband – or someone to spend her life with. She has it all, everything a girl could want, but has no one to spend it with.
    Every day I come here hoping you’re going to reveal that you and your hubby are pregnant. Same as every day I go to work hoping to hear a love story from my boss.
    You both deserve the world, you’re both achingly beautiful inside and out – and I too, long for the day that the green grass reaches your side of the fence. Until then, enjoy your fabulous life – since you only have this one to live – and try to remove your focus from what you don’t have (because as you know, stress/anxiety/worry does not help make babies) and think about taking a vacation away from it all.
    Much Love

  • Idy

    November 13, 2009 |

    Be strong. Be well. Be happy. Live life.

  • Inspiration in Italy

    November 13, 2009 |

    Gorgeous!! xx

  • Suzanne

    November 13, 2009 |

    nice! brown looks very good on you:)

  • Kim

    November 13, 2009 |

    We went through fertility treatments the first six months of this year, with no luck. It kills me every time I hear about someone else who’s going through it. You seem like a beautiful person, both inside and out and I know it sounds cliche’ (probably because it is) but if you want to become a mom badly enough, you’ll find a way to do it. I’m over here taking my own advice as well. In the meantime, good on you for trying to find the positive.

  • FashionAddict

    November 13, 2009 |

    What a chic little outfit!! I LOVE that blazer, especially with that gorgeous necklace!

  • Clara

    November 13, 2009 |

    amazing, girl!!!

  • Chessa!

    November 13, 2009 |

    I think you look fabulous and I like the literal expression of what you wrote with you smelling a rose. It shouldn’t be SO hard for us but it is…I’m so similar to you. It took me a while but I think I’ve finally reached the place where I don’t allow myself to spiral…

  • Angela

    November 13, 2009 |

    I love the fashion… the hunt for fabulous… the art of pulling it all together. But, I have to maintain perspective. We’re surrounded by a “get and then get more” culture. And, while it’s okay to be blessed with nice things, it’s not okay if we lose our focus on what’s truly important. I struggle with this from time to time. And you know when I REALLY struggle with it? When I fashion blog hop too much. =^)

  • Anonymous

    November 13, 2009 |

    You truly have style!
    Pleeeease make some new outfits on your looklet. I checked it and really like your styling there also.


  • GamecockQueen

    November 13, 2009 |

    I think you always look stunning and I love the shoes, they are adorable!

    And I totally get you about affordability. I worked really hard to finish college at a nationally recognised university, get up at 6:30 AM and go into work from 9-5 everyday…and feel like I still don’t have any $ to afford anything! I know I am not poor and I am lucky to afford housing and food, but yes, after seeing something like Real Housewives, I get totally MAD! And it’s not like I want a sugar daddy to buy me this nice stuff, I would just like to be able to buy myself something nice since I work so hard! Very annoying.

  • Amy

    November 13, 2009 |



  • Annabelle (408)

    November 13, 2009 |

    love the wedges!!


  • Iva

    November 13, 2009 |

    you look amazing, and I love that you took the time to {literally} smell the roses. you are so right, sometimes we just think too much too fast and miss so many moments that would bring us joy…maybe even have a calming effect.

    I am sorry about the time it is taking for baby to be, to come on board. So sorry. I wish there was something I could say to make this better, make it easier, or make it happen sooner. I am so sorry. You deserve everything in the world that you want and so much more. You will have everything you want. Time will align and you will be in the right place and the right time, and one day you will look back, and understand, and have answers to all the ‘whys’.

    Everything will be ok. In the mean time, enjoy and be proud of who YOU are and what you have…you give so much to so many of us, and we appreciate you.

  • Kristin Davidson

    November 13, 2009 |

    I love your blog! I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. I have 1 little girl, I grew up wanting 3. After 4 surgeries, at 23 I had to have sugery that kept me from having any more kids. I often get sad that I can’t have any more, I always remind myself though that I had 1 completely by accident. At the time I was told they had no idea how I was even able to get prego. It’s just like love, it happens just when you think its time to give up. 🙂
    I’ll keep you in my prayers love!

  • Kristin Davidson

    November 13, 2009 |

    PS-I grew up in Anaheim, it’s a struggle to not get too caught up! We all have our moments where we let ourselves give into a fantasy world,you are such a sweetie though your still you. 🙂

  • Nicole

    November 13, 2009 |


    You are creative, intelligent and super strong! You are my shero and we all love you because you are inspirational and not afraid to share your life with us. Me, I really want to get married and it is a struggle to get a decent date. So, I know a lot about wanting someone important in your life and it feels like it is taking FOR-FREAKIN-EVER for anything good to happen.

    But, we have to count our blessings and find solutions because worrying and complaining can only do so much.

    I’ll be praying for you (and myself, LOL)

  • Kris

    November 16, 2009 |

    Maegan, I enjoy reading your blog because you remind me a lot of myself. The one thing we don’t have in common, however, is the baby obsession. Why don’t you look on the bright side? You are not contributing to the very serious over population problem that the world is facing, not to mention the ongoing economical and ecological crises. Why don’t you really do something selfless and adopt?

  • Down and Out Chic

    November 17, 2009 |

    i love this look! fantastic for work…

    i also have to say (on a side note) that i’m shaking my head at the comment above me. big sigh.

  • Bromeliad

    November 18, 2009 |

    Thanks for sharing.

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